The Sakyong has never apologized.

Here is a list of the public apologies and acknowledgements, as well as an explanation of a good apology and an analysis of the Sakyong's public statements.

June 25, 2018 Sakyong's Letter to the Community:

It is my wish for you to know that in my past there have been times when I have engaged in relationships with women in the Shambhala community. I have recently learned that some of these women have shared experiences of feeling harmed as a result of these relationships. I am now making a public apology.

In addition, I would like you to know that over the years, I have apologized personally to people who have expressed feeling harmed by my conduct, including some of those who have recently shared their stories. I have also engaged in mediation and healing practices with those who have felt harmed. Thus I have been, and will continue to be, committed to healing these wounds.  (link to letter)

July 2018 - Sakyong's statement to the International Leadership Group -   Transcript of Kalapa Council Call to International Leadership group

“I just want to say that how incredibly sorry I am that all of you have to carry this because of my actions and because of my own past.”  Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

July 10, 2018 - Sakyong's Letter to the Community

In a state of complete heartbreak, I write to you, humble, embarrassed, and thoroughly apologetic for disappointing you. I feel a tremendous amount of sorrow for the pain, confusion, and anger that our sangha is experiencing. I accept accountability for this pain, and want to express my commitment to personal growth. 

Witness - Facebook post July 2018 
Re: 2002 “Chilean Incident” 

“As soon as what happened later on that evening became known to me as a member of the Sakyong’s traveling party, I contacted the Chilean woman. I made clear to her that such behavior on the part of SMR was simply not acceptable, and that he owed her a profound apology – an apology that SMR made via a letter from the Santiago airport en route back to North America (I recall it being the next morning.)”

Witness - Kalapa Council Call to International Leadership July 2018 
re: 2011 Julia Howell Apology:

“The day after the incident described I heard about it...in 2014 at her request said she was ready to meet with the Sakyong,  I let the Sakyong know and he immediately said okay. I asked her, what does she need, how does she want to get there, who does she want to support her? She wanted me to pick her up and be in the room and drive her home. And I questioned that because of my role, and she said that would make her feel most safe and conformable. In that meeting the Sakyong apologized and did a healing ceremony. This woman shared from her heart for a long time in a way that Rinpoche could hear. As we kept checking afterwards I got the sense that yes, that is what was needed.

Anatomy of an Apology

Typical ingredients to a good apology: 

1) Specify what you did that hurt someone. 

2) Say what you think the other person probably felt when you did that thing. 

3) Say how you feel now, looking back on what you did.  

4) Say what need you were trying to meet when you did that thing.  

5) Say what you will do differently in the future to meet that need.  (A consequence may or may not follow this apology.)  

This is a good exercise for anyone and works especially well when facilitated by someone who has compassion for both parties.  

The Sakyong has already done steps 2-5 in many ways, in words and in actions.  It’s step #1 that people really want, and it appears unlikely to occur for three reasons: 

1) Many of the alleged incidents occurred while the Sakyong was drunk, so it is possible that he doesn't remember with clarity the alleged acts.  An apology offered in this instance would not be a “genuine apology” since he doesn’t remember what happened.  

2) The words some people have used — rape, assault, abuse — have legal meanings and could imply legal consequences.  

3) There is an unintended consequence to publicly sharing details of what happened.  It would be a breach of personal boundaries that could cause additional harm to those he apologized to, and therefore is wholly inappropriate.

So, don’t anticipate “a more genuine apology” from the Sakyong anytime soon, if “more genuine” means naming and taking sole responsibility for the specific acts that have been alleged against him.